SCONY Protocols

*SCONY Protocols. Everything listed is based on experience where the limits of what we want to entertain had to be made more clear. SCONY has been accused of having too many rules. No we don’t. Most of what is written below is common sense. Most of the rules protect a new player and support the concept of making the night a special event. Our events are not overly casual. Clean up, dress nice and mind your manners.

*Protocols have been put in place to ensure that all who come to our events will have a safe and enjoyable time with spanking — especially the frightened novice who may become overwhelmed. We also work to protect everyone’s privacy and anonymity.

*SCONY parties are held in NYC, where “Moderation” is not always fashionable. To avoid problems the protocols Below are very clear.

*As a group, we support several styles of play but encourage all players to negotiate mutually consensual scene and to respect the limits discussed. Communicate your style: DISCIPLINE, PLAYFUL, MAINTENANCE, SENUOUS or EROTIC. Sensuous and Erotic spankings are best kept for another time than the party.

*Listed below are the rules upuheld at all SCONY events:

Recommended play: Old-Fashioned, Platonic, Traditional, Institutional, Loving And Parental. (Read more about the OPTILAP approach at https//www.scony.com/articles/optilap.
Communicate your style: Discipline, Playful, Maintenance….. Sensuous and Erotic is best kept for another time.
All play is platonic and non-sexual. Sensuous play is best kept for private play in a private setting.
New to the group? Play where other people can hear your safe words. Don’t isolate yourself away from the crowd. Tell the hosts ASAP if you have a problem. Don’t wait.
We reserve the right to deny entry to avoid any discrepancy between male and female representation in the club. Meaning, if there are too many men it’s not a balanced event.
Get a name before you play. We can’t solve problems without a name. We also can’t solve a problem after everyone has left and don’t know the person of which you speak. Tell your hosts ASAP when something isn’t right or going wrong for you.
If someone touches you inappropriately you really need to tell someone and get the word to the hosts of the party, ASAP. The community tries to protect new and experienced players from unpleasant experiences. We can’t help you if we don’t know. We are there to help you have a good time and not be offended by people who don’t read the rules.
There is water, soda and some alcohol at the event. PLEASE inform the host if someone has had too much wine. We can’t fix future problems if the person has left and/or we don’t know their name. Your opinion matters. We don’t need anyone overserved.
There are privacy cubicles for play. Don’ t hog the space. Others are waiting. Rather than interrupt another’s scene get a monitor or host.
Communication is at the core of all play. Get help if you need to but be clear. Tell someone if you have a problem. Make sure you can clearly hear and understand the needs and boundaries of another player. English is the main language at the party. Make sure we understand your needs and you understand the rules.
You have to be able to communicate very clearly (hearing, speech and the English language) to be able to negotiate a consensual spanking scene. Get an interpreter if you must. Good manners in speech, dress and personal hygiene are common sense matters we expect.
Wearing a thong prevents problems. If you play in public at SCONY private areas must be covered. Keep your bottom covered or lift undies up rather than down. No frontal nudity. Keep your clothes on.
Appropriate implements: hand, paddle, hairbrush, strap, wooden spoon, cane, tawse, birch.
Appropriate titles include but aren’t limited to: Mr., Ms., Miss or first names. Many people are offended by family titles, such as, “daddy” “mommy”, “auntie, etc. Keep your fantasies in your head and don’t use those words out loud. Not all adult players want to be reminded of their family while at an adult party.
Appropriate dress: On the dressy side of casual. Collared shirts and nice shoes make a better impression. No T-shirts, no sweat pants, flannel shirts, hats, caps, coats, or anything too casual. Shorts are OK in July and August.
Keep a respectful distance when watching others. Do not interrupt another player’s scene.
We use safe words. “Yellow” (ease up/caution) and “RED” for stop. A hand on the ankle means to ease up/lighten up.
Do not ask a bottom to spank you. They are bottoms and do not like being asked to switch their orientation. If you’re a switch, take time to switch. Plan ahead.

BIG NO’S
No latex, PVC, diapers, or cross-dressing. This party celebrates Old-fashioned spanking. Out of respect for someone who doesn’t know you very well, or is very new, it may be appropriate to share your gender identy before doing a scene.
No words that make references to masters, mistresses, goddesses or slaves or family titles (Daddy, Mommy, Auntie). It’s best to keep those fantasies in your head. Don’t disturb the mindset of others who find family titles off-putting.
No whips, cat o’ nine tails, or floggers.
No St. Andrew’s cross.
No overly obvious collars, leashes, ropes or bondage equipment.
Space is limited. Keep your implement carriers to a reasonable size.
No frontal nudity. Keep your clothes on.
No sex, prostitution, pandering or pimping
No cameras, laptops, or recording devices of any kind.
No cell phones can be used inside the party space. No exceptions Please go outside for all calls. No pictures. No pictures. No pictures.

Expectations:

*Show up clean and scrubbed with fresh breath. Good manners in speech, dress and personal hygiene are common sense matters we expect.

*Bring a snack for the food table.

*If someone is clearly a bottom please do not ask them to spank you. It’s a buzz kill.

*All guests must be aware of their own safety regarding previous injuries and health problems.

It is OK to play outside the cubicles at SCONY parties. Just be sure to wear a thong. I have nothing against open play as long as private areas are covered.

*You have to be able to communicate very clearly (hearing, speech and the English language), TO BE ABLE TO NEIGOTIATE A SAFE SPANKING SCENE. Communicating first is part of basic safe play!

*If you grind your pelvis into the leg of a top while being spanked it’s FINE if the top stops the scene. If you have ANY problems with me or SCONY, email me first and I can probably fix it. If you choose to vent/troll on Fetlife first and do not email me at Margaretsweekend@aol.com, consider your complaint useless and don’t attend. I do listen and I have often made changes. Understand that each protocol has a story or reason behind it.

*If you are attending the Mountain Weekend you have to be able to walk a hill.

>SCONY is similar to a Special Interest Group. We are a private organization, not a public service entity. The protocols are created for the comfort of novices, the hosts and fans of old-fashioned spanking. We enjoy moderation. We respect all corners of the community but we do not choose to entertain every interest found on the internet. We also don’t wish to entertain like all the other spanking groups.

*Protocols have been put in place to ensure that all who come to our events will have a safe and enjoyable time with spanking — especially the frightened novice who may become overwhelmed. We also work to protect everyone’s privacy and anonymity.

*SCONY parties are held in NYC, where “Moderation” is not always fashionable. To avoid problems the protocols Below are very clear.

*Listed below are the rules upuheld at all SCONY events:

Recommended play: Old-Fashioned, Platonic, Traditional, Institutional, Loving And Parental. (Read more about the OPTILAP approach at https//www.scony.com/articles/optilap.

Communicate your style: Discipline, Playful, Maintenance….. Sensuous and Erotic is best kept for another time.

All play is platonic and non-sexual. Sensuous play is best kept for private play in a private setting.

New to the group? Play where other people can hear your safe words. Don’t isolate yourself away from the crowd. Tell the hosts ASAP if you have a problem. Don’t wait.

We reserve the right to deny entry to avoid any discrepancy between male and female representation in the club. Meaning, if there are too many men it’s not a balanced event.

Get a name before you play. We can’t solve problems without a name. We also can’t solve a problem after everyone has left and don’t know the person of which you speak. Tell your hosts ASAP when something isn’t right or going wrong for you.

There is water, soda and some alcohol at the event. PLEASE inform the host if someone has had too much wine. We can’t fix future problems if the person has left and/or we don’t know their name. Your opinion matters. We don’t need anyone overserved.

There are privacy cubicles for play. Don’ t hog the space. Others are waiting. Rather than interrupt another’s scene get a monitor or host.

You have to be able to communicate very clearly (hearing, speech and the English language) to be able to negotiate a consensual spanking scene. Get an interpreter if you must. Good manners in speech, dress and personal hygiene are common sense matters we expect.

Wearing a thong prevents problems. If you play in public at SCONY private areas must be covered. Keep your bottom covered or lift undies up rather than down. No frontal nudity. Keep your clothes on.

Appropriate implements: hand, paddle, hairbrush, strap, wooden spoon, cane, tawse, birch.

Appropriate dress: On the dressy side of casual. Collared shirts and nice shoes make a better impression. No T-shirts, no sweat pants, flannel shirts, hats, caps, coats, or anything too casual. Shorts are OK in July and August.

Keep a respectful distance when watching others. Do not interrupt another player’s scene.

We use safe words. “Yellow” (ease up/caution) and “RED” for stop. A hand on the ankle means to ease up/lighten up.

Do not ask a bottom to spank you. They are bottoms and do not like being asked to switch their orientation. If you’re a switch, take time to switch. Plan ahead.

BIG NO’S

No latex, PVC, diapers, or cross-dressing. This party celebrates Old-fashioned spanking. Out of respect for someone who doesn’t know you very well, or is very new, it may be appropriate to share your gender identy before doing a scene.

No words that make references to masters, mistresses, goddesses or slaves or family titles (Daddy, Mommy, Auntie). It’s best to keep those fantasies in your head. Don’t disturb the mindset of others who find family titles off-putting.

No whips, cat o’ nine tails, or floggers.

No St. Andrew’s cross.

No overly obvious collars, leashes, ropes or bondage equipment.

Space is limited. Keep your implement carriers to a reasonable size.

No frontal nudity. Keep your clothes on.

No sex, prostitution, pandering or pimping

No cameras, laptops, or recording devices of any kind.

No cell phones can be used inside the party space. No exceptions Please go outside for all calls. No pictures. No pictures. No pictures.

Expectations:

*Show up clean and scrubbed with fresh breath. Good manners in speech, dress and personal hygiene are common sense matters we expect.

*Bring a snack for the food table.

*If someone is clearly a bottom please do not ask them to spank you. It’s a buzz kill.

*All guests must be aware of their own safety regarding previous injuries and health problems.

It is OK to play outside the cubicles at SCONY parties. Just be sure to wear a thong. I have nothing against open play as long as private areas are covered.

*You have to be able to communicate very clearly (hearing, speech and the English language), TO BE ABLE TO NEIGOTIATE A SAFE SPANKING SCENE. Communicating first is part of basic safe play!

*If you are attending the Mountain Weekend you have to be able to walk a hill.