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                                                      Spanking Club Of New York

     SCONY, Inc.
              copyright 1999-2007 Ms. Margaret Davis

July 12, 2008 party cancelled

New York’s only totally OTK spanking group since 1997

Privacy, Respect and Healthy Play

Novices welcome and encouraged to attend. 

We protect the quality of the crowd.

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OPTILAP
: Interactive, group socializing to re-establish and secure timeless community standards
through the use of Old-fashioned, Platonic, Traditional, Institutional, Loving And Parental discipline." 
For short, it is an O.P.T.I.L.A.P. spanking experience.  It's not age play or role-play but a choice to be held
accountable for behavior.  It doesn't have to hurt but it should, in some way, get one's attention. 
Pain limits are expected and safe words respected.
 


SCONY Calendar of Events

SPANKING WEEKEND in the Mountains

 SCONY  Protocol

Basic Scene Protocol

Membership Application Link

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See below for: SCONY Objectives -Party Protocol- Chat- Message Board-
Membership fees- Calendar of Events- Links- OPTILAP- Videos

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OBJECTIVES:

1. To provide safe and sane regular social gatherings and parties for traditional spankers of legal age for the purposes of meeting kindred spirits in a safe location.

2. To offer a comfortable support group and social setting for OTK spankers who prefer a domestic, nurturing, traditional, old-fashioned and respectful approach to spanking.

3. To offer an outreach program to newly emerging, very shy spankers.

4. While we respect the choices of our loving scene friends, at this time, we do not encourage wearing fetish outfits and leather gear to our gatherings; no cross dressing.    (We recommend small purses with minimal supplies.  Empty wallets with no credit cards inside.)

5.  Adults who are discreet, have impeccably good manners, a sense of humor, a healthy personality and respect for the limits of others are welcome to join SCONY.  Organizers reserve the right to exclude persons who cannot conduct themselves in a fashion appropriate for the purposes of the club.

6. To keep anonymity a priority we encourage members to use scene names and private addresses and email addresses through services such as hotmail or yahoo.

7. Organizers will maintain an extremely private membership list of people who are in good standing in the spanking community and who respect the purpose of the club.

8. Organizers reserve the right to do what is necessary to maintain a balance in female-to-male ratio at parties.To maintain a balance in membership from time to time there may be a waiting list for membership.

9. We encourage good will and respect towards all interests in the scene. We make no judgments on anyone's preferences and ask the community to respect our right to fulfill a very specific need of our own.  SCONY is an organization aimed primarily to the needs of heterosexual spankers.

10. The club will continue to support local businesses who are friendly and supportive of old-fashioned, traditional, OTK spanking.

11. The club will continue to respect other spanking groups around the country and try not to schedule activities that would conflict. We hope they will check our calendar, too.

12.  NO CAMERAS OR RECORDING DEVICES OF ANY KIND AT ANY TIME AT ANY PARTIES.

13.  NO CELL PHONE USE IN THE PARTY SPACE.  All calls are taken outside.


SPANKING WEEKEND IN THE MOUNTAINS
and  St. Margaret's Academy
October 10-12, 2008


Basic Scene Protocol  and

Protocol for all SCONY Parties

copyright 1999, 2007 Ms. Margaret Davis

*** Appropriate play:  Old-Fashioned, Platonic, Traditional, Institutional, Loving And Parental spanking. (OPTILAP)  Playful and/or light discipline scenes only.
*** Sensuous and erotic play is best kept private and at another time.

*** Wearing a thong is recommended for privacy.
*** Appropriate implements:  HAND, paddle, hairbrush, strap, wooden spoon, cane, tawse, birch
*** Appropriate titles:  Mr., Ms., Miss or first names
*** Appropriate dress: On the dressy side of casual.  No T-shirts or flannel shirts or caps.
*** Keep a respectful distance when watching others.
*** We use safe words.  "Yellow" (ease up/caution) and "RED" for stop.
*** A hand on the ankle means to ease up/lighten up.

*** No Leather, Latex, PVC, Diapers or Cross dressing.
*** No masters, mistresses, goddesses or slaves.
*** No whips, cat o' nine tails or floggers.
*** No collars, leashes, ropes or bondage equipment.
*** No large implement carriers or shopping bags.
*** No erotic massaging
*** No frontal nudity.
*** Erotic spanking is discouraged at SCONY parties.
*** No sex, no prostitution, no pandering nor pimping
*** No cameras or recording devices of any kind. 
*** No cell phone use inside the party space.  Go outside for all calls.

  The best way to have a good time at a party is to meet people ahead of time in online! 
Join us in chat
and give us a chance to know you before the party.


Sign up for the SCONY Yahoo group.  When you get accepted directions will
be sent to you for how to reach us on Delphiforums where we have  a
message board and chat
, Mon-Thurs. 9:30 PM EST 
Subscribe to SCONY
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SCONY Calendar of Events



Spanking Videos

MEMBERSHIP

Dues: $30.00 a year for females. $50.00 a year for males. $40.00 a year for couples.

An interview may be required.

Membership Includes:

1. Discount for members at all parties.

2.  Maintenance of a web site with regular upcoming events and articles on safe and sane choices.

3. Exclusive notification of members only events (Minimal fee may be required).
Advance notification of ALL events.

4.  If you can show a membership card that is not expired:

20% discount at Come Again, 353 E. 53rd St.  NY, NY 10022, 212.308.9394.

15% discount at Pleasure Chest, 156 Seventh Ave., NY, NY 10014, 212.242.2158

5.  $5. discount for SCONY members at PaddlesNYC.
(We are working on arranging discounts at other scene boutiques and clubs.)


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For information on membership email
MsMargaret@scony.com




 TO MS. MARGARET'S HOME PAGE

SCONY EVENTS AND MS. MARGARET'S CALENDAR

SPANKING WEEKEND WITH MS. MARGARET AND FRIENDS

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SPANKING POSSIBILITIES YOU MAY WANT TO PONDER

DIFFERENT STYLES OF SPANKING

 SUGGESTED SCENE RULES OF PROTOCOL

 "D&S, S&M, & SPANKING" vs. ABUSE

FEM/DOM? MAYBE. ALONE? DEFINITELY NOT.

A SPANKING STORY

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RISKING IT ALL TO BE MS MARGARET

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LINKS
 

Spanking Videos


Ms. Margaret's Cyber Club:
Message board and chat, Mon-Thur, 9:30-10 PM

 Join the SCONY yahoo site and you will receive
information on how to reach us.  You must include your age and
some details about yourinterest.  Or write to MsMargaret@scony.com

Join SCONY Yahoo group to get started!

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O.P.T.I.L.A.P.
A Suggested Idea for Successful Party Spanking
 by Margaret Davis
copyright 2000-2007 Ms. Margaret Davis

OPTILAP is a suggestion for general play that precedes a more intimate or specific scene.   It is a way to make a spanking work for tops and bottoms who may not know the fine details of the other player's mind.  Assuming one has communicated basic styles and safety, it often takes time to learn the finer points of a player.  In the meantime, you may be spanking and interacting at  parties and, I assume, you would want the most successful experiences along the way.

When I put the SCONY parties together I found that too many players presumed too much about what was taking place in the other person's mind.  I had a difficult time expressing the need for something more natural and less intrusive on other people's head space.  There simply
wasn't a term out there for something I call:

"Interactive, group socializing to re-establish and secure timeless community standards through the use of Old-fashioned, Platonic, Traditional, Institutional, Loving And Parental discipline.

Examples of ‘timeless community standards' would be punctuality, honesty,  good table manners, and any other acts of refinement.  Being held accountable was neither  role play nor age play.  While role play and age play are legitimate choices  they don't seem to be the natural experience many people like.

The end goal of role play is to be in a role.  The role could be anything from a ten year old to the Queen of England.  In discovering a role a person has the liberty to explore all the activities this persona would encompass, which could include anything from baby talk to costumes.  It may or may not include spanking.

The same could be said about age play.  If you see yourself as three you are acting out all the indulgences of being three.  It doesn't necessarily include spanking.

At parties I noticed some people were having difficulty enjoying other players because too much was assumed as the spanking scene commenced.  There were tops visualizing a spanking with an adult and getting distracted with bottoms using baby talk.   The opposite happened when bottoms heard sexual references while they looked to experience a parental feeling of discipline and leadership.  (A recent poll showed that 42 per cent of spankers prefer a punishment spanking before three other styles of erotic, playful and maintenance.)  Too much touching and rubbing from an envisioned parental figure was not a match for the more innocent approach of a bottom looking for discipline.

When a group of nice people get together for enjoyable spanking there has to be a way to please more people by backing up and mapping out a few ideas about party spanking.

SUGGESTIONS
In order to accommodate a greater amount satisfaction for both parties I've listed few ideas.

1.  Keep specific images private and within your own head.  Don't ‘throw your need' onto another player who, as far as you know, may not want the scene to head into certain directions.  By keeping some details  private it allows  space for your partner to keep from getting distracted.  If you see yourself as ten, fine, but no one else needs to know that.  The person spanking you may be envisioning you as an adult.  If you see yourself as spanking an adult be aware they may be feeling like a child.  To make adult remarks or move on to sensuous touching will ruin the child-like experience they may be enjoying.   "Package" your scene so that everybody wins.
 

2.  Use generic terms.  Mr., Mrs., Ms., Yes Sir, No Sir/ Ma'am are fairly common to most roles and ages.  Words that may throw off someone else (unless you've talked about it) are Mommy, Daddy, Auntie, Mistress, Master, etc.  Certain words if said loudly enough can be distracting for an entire room of people and take away from a more natural setting.

3.  Keep it platonic.  If you have erotic thoughts keep them to yourself until the other person has clearly indicated that your desires are welcome. Keeping a spanking platonic  is the hardest step for the men but, frankly, it's the most important until otherwise is indicated. It's understandable
to respect sensuous and erotic spanking. It's a fine way to act out the spanking if both parties have agreed and consented that this is where the spanking is headed.  To assume otherwise is presumptuous.

4.  Attend a SCONY party.  The protocol and style of these events are listed so that the most amount of pleasure can be experienced in the brief time we have.   I really don't want to say 'don't do age play or role play' at a SCONY party.  I just want to explain that there is a way to do it so the whole room doesn't get pulled into something that isn't fun for them.

Think about each of the words that is represented in the acronym OPTILAP and add your own thoughts:
*Old-Fashioned: Usually a domestic setting or a school situation.  It may or may not include antique clothes and a specific spot (woodshed, bedroom, kitchen)  More common items would be cotton panties, flannel pajamas, old-fashioned girdle-garter belts, plaids, razor straps, hairbrushes, canes, etc.

*Platonic: "This spanking is for your own good".  "I'm doing this because I care".  Platonic spanking is not sexual.  Sensuous touches or adult remarks may ruin the experience for the other person.

*Traditional: Spanking has been going on for centuries.  It's nothing the fetish world created.  It has time honored traditions, such as the straight back chair, the strong use of the hand, the kitchen spoon, the belt, the slipper and an endless list of household supplies.  More important than the items is the use of words: "Come here"; " Go get the hairbrush"; "Bend over"; "You wait until I get you home"; "Go to your room".

*Institutional: It could be a school or orphanage that runs through your mind.  Some people with adult visions picture an office setting.

*Loving: The spanking is enriched with respect.  It is neither brutal nor out of control.  The reasons and parameters have been discussed and a fitting scene is acted out responsibly.

*And...

*Parental: By that I don't mean "you be the mommy and I'll be the daddy".  Parental means a person in a guiding role.  Someone who cares enough about you as a person and will take the time to instill the values you learned from your parents (assuming your parents were good people).

Serious, intense pain and forceful hitting is not the most important component to a successful spanking.  It is the intent, the style and the maturity with which it is delivered and received.  A spanking is not an endurance test and no one is keeping score.  The experience should be fun and pleasurable.

The more players communicate the more likely all the details of fantasy get fulfilled.   That takes time and in the limited amount of time people have at a party not all things can be accomplished.  OPTILAP is only a suggestion for general play so you can enjoy yourself and the people around you.
 

Copyright 1999-2007 Ms. Margaret Davis
 
                                                                                           
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